No one can make you feel inferior unless you give them the power to do so. You can choose what to give power to and what to use to empower you.
A few days ago I was put into a group message about my upcoming 30 year high school reunion. As the group grew, I began to feel smaller and smaller. I went right back into a space of inferiority fast as lightening.
In high school, I wasn’t a popular girl. I wasn’t a nerd, a jock, or any other “label”. I just wasn’t. I had few friends and in my junior and senior year I was labeled the drummer’s girlfriend. I felt very small and insignificant in high school. I was very shy and I didn’t have the confidence that I have now.
As my classmates began chatting about who could help, what we could do, and all of the pre-function arrangements I chatted in that I go home a lot to see my parents so if I could help out, just let me know.
And here the power that I gave my classmates 30+ years ago to make me feel inferior began to flare up again.
I immediately texted one of my true friends from high school. No surprise, she was feeling the same way. We had both given the popular kids, the jocks, the rich kids the power to make us feel inferior and after all this time, they still had that power.
Fast forward a few days. My friend comes to visit and we started talking about our reunion. Her husband said something that made me think about the power other people have over me. He said we should go to the reunion.
I am in my late 40s. No person or group of people should have the power to make me feel inferior. My life is not high school. I am a powerful woman running a successful business surrounded by other strong women.
You can choose to let people’s talk or actions take your power or EMPOWER you. I choose to be empowered.